My Inner Circle

I am one of the most private people you will ever meet, rarely letting anyone into my private life or my inner circle. Imagine how much I had to step out of my comfort zone to open up my life and help others going through what I went through. I know, right?! 

However, one area that I will never compromise on is my inner circle. It’s small and I like it that way. It is said that you are the sum of the five people you spend the most time with. It is also said that your inner circle should be a firm foundation of your values and goals.  So you can imagine how selective I am with my time.

I’ve been known to cut anyone out of my life who puts my well-being at risk. I’ve also been known to see the good in people who don’t deserve it for far too long. I know, complicated. I have learned quite a few lessons though, and want to share this advice with you.  

Round Table

I view my inner circle as a table. It’s my right to choose what size table and how many chairs are set at it. I can add and remove chairs as I see fit. I’ve learned that not everyone you let in deserves a seat at your table. I’m slow to let in and quick to remove. Some may disagree on that being a “best practice” but it’s my life and I will live it on my terms.  

Lessons Learned 

I certainly don’t have all the answers. But I have experience. My experience has taught me that my inner circle will remain small, but it is substantial in quality. 

Not everyone who says they are your friend really is. Sometimes the people you trust the most turn out to be the biggest disappointment. Trust is important in any relationship. Unfortunately, we can sometimes put our trust in the wrong people. I want you to know that when someone breaks your trust, it is okay to remove them from your circle. You have my permission. 

Tip: If you want to talk about these topics in person, you can schedule a one-on-one with me. Sometimes, you need that personal approach.

Good People

I have some of the most amazing people in my life. I didn’t always have amazing people in my life ⁠— it took time to build up trust and friendships ⁠— but it is worth the wait. 

My good friends and family have been super supportive and let me be me. They call me out when I am behaving poorly. My inner circle lifts me up when I feel completely lost.  They cheer me on and keep me motivated. If there is anyone in your inner circle who doesn’t do that for you, remove them.

The men and women in my inner circle are collectively amazing. We learn from each other, we motivate each other, and we support each other through whatever life throws at us. It’s a must!

Live life on your terms,


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