In any relationship, there are Ebbs and Flows. Sometimes those ebbs are so deep that you can’t see out to the flow. Once we end the relationship, we tend to wallow in the ebbs and forget to reach for the flows. The truth: the ebb and the flow are both parts of this life.
The Ebbs
Post relationship can be a tricky place to be. I know that most of us have been there, once or twice (or more). To those of you who met your soulmate on the first date and have lived happily ever after since then, I couldn’t be happier for you. Seriously! But, let’s face it, that is not even close to the norm!
Most of us have kissed too many frogs to find our prince. And even that doesn’t guarantee he is a prince.
Now, this goes both ways. I use the pronoun he because that is the way I experienced it. I know this experience is equal for men and women. So, don’t think I am just hating on men; couldn’t be further from the truth. So, as you read my blogs you will see him and he many times. Feel free to change the pronoun to fit your circumstances.
Finding Flow
In the beginning of the after for me, life was great! I was basking in the peace that my new life gave me.
There were no more verbal assaults in my home. I celebrated a year of nothing in my house being broken or destroyed (things or humans). There were no more 3 am drunken fights. No more waiting up for someone who chose alcohol over his family or worrying about how he was going to get home. My dogs only hid when there was a thunderstorm instead of someone yelling.
Now, I can’t wait to go home. It is my happy place. It’s where everything is calm and in order. After the divorce, my friends would ask, aren’t you lonely? Oh, heck no… I was lonely when I was married.
Now, I embrace being alone. I have my dogs who keep me company. I have my family and friends who either visit or we go places together.
As much as I enjoy where I am, I still have ebbs. Except now, they aren’t as complicated anymore. I will have bad days that trigger me and I can find myself getting caught in the ebb of it all. But, I’ve learned how to push out of the ebbs to get back to the flow.
The Ebb and the Flow
Most of the time I can come out of the ebbs by myself.
There are times I’ve had to reach out for help to get back into the flow of it all. We all enjoy the flow, don’t we? Everything is easy and calm. When we get caught in the ebb, we tend to forget that we CAN push ourselves back into the flow. Those ebbs can teach us to enjoy the flow if we look at it that way.
Our journey in life is a constant ebb and flow. Each of our journeys are different.
Embrace the ebb and the flow! It’s all part of this life and it’s all part of the journey. Just know you can pull yourself out of the ebb and back into the flow. I’m living proof!
If you’re interested in learning how to manage the ebbs, explore my website or send me a message. I’d love to support you on your journey.
Live life on your terms
Michelle