So much can change as you enter midlife. Your body is different, and you might be fearful about the future. Emotions are higher and hormones are changing. It can all be pretty confusing, and it’s normal to be unsure about it all. It can even make you feel a little crazy. I promise you’re not, though!
I used to struggle with the idea of midlife and how it would change me. It makes me sad to think I spent so long worrying about and fearing midlife. Because you know what? Midlife has actually been pretty amazing for me. If you’re like I was, and fearing the changes these years can bring, I’ll put those fears to rest.
Crossing The Bridge
Midlife is a bridge. It’s scary because you don’t really know what’s on the other side. You might feel unsure of what’s ahead, or if you can get through it. You might even get tired or stop in one place for a while on your way. That’s okay! Rest when you need to, get your bearings, and keep climbing.
Once you realize you can do it, you’ll be coming down the other side. You’ll find yourself looking back at the bridge and thinking, “That wasn’t so bad, was it?” Climbing the bridge and navigating this time isn’t so bad. But, if you’re struggling on your climb, know you don’t have to do it alone.
You’re Not Alone
Men and women take on fearing midlife every single day. The problem is, nobody wants to talk about this stuff. I have amazing family and friends who are all familiar with midlife changes. But do you think I spoke with them about the changes I was going through? Hell no. And it’s too bad, because it can be pretty entertaining. If you can take a lighthearted approach to these midlife issues, it’s so much easier.
Don’t get me wrong, I know that some people struggle with fearing midlife. My heart just wants to reach out and pull those people in for a hug and say, “it will get better.” You don’t have to go at it alone! If you need help, get it. There is no shame in seeking therapy or even taking medication if it will help you move forward. Don’t let anyone make you feel like you shouldn’t ask for the help you need. Whether it’s a therapist, your friend, your brother or sister, whoever – reach out if you need support!
You’ve Got This
I’m here to tell you that I’m going through all of this right along with you right now. I’m fully embracing this time in my life, and I want you to, too. I’m living my life the way I want, and that’s why it’s my best life.
What do you like to do? How do you want to feel? Where do you want to be? Think about those questions, and then DO what you want to do. It doesn’t matter how anyone else is going about their lives. You have to live a life that will make you happy. Own it, celebrate it, live it, and surround yourself with people who will support you.
When I say I’m the happiest I’ve ever been, I really mean it. And it’s because I’m choosing how to live my life. I mean, there are things we don’t get to choose, like working. And you know what? I love going to work, because I’ve made it a place that I like to be. We all have responsibilities, and it’s up to you to make the best of them for yourself.
The only way you’re going to live a happy life and own your midlife moxie is by living YOUR best life. Choose you, do you, every single damn day. You’re going to find yourself living a fantastic life that fulfills you and gives you peace. And if you need someone to encourage you on your climb through these years, shoot me an email at michelle@michellesukow.com. I promise you can do this!
Live your best life,
Michelle